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Learn how to have everyone wrapped around your little finger with these sneaky tactics....
Do you fancy getting your own way in life, love and work without having to scream, shout or act like a demanding diva? All you need to do is use technique called "priming". Research shows that if you specific words or body language, people will give you what you want- without even realising what's going on.
Here’s how to do it.
At Work
How to bond with the boss Offer to get your boss a cup of coffee - even if it's something you wouldn't normally do - then chat to them while they drink it. Why it works. A recent study showed that by holding the hot liquid, your boss will subconsciously think that you're an emotionally person.
How to show you're ready for promotion Wear a chic all-black outfit and don't smile as often as you usually would. Why it works: Studies have found that people in black uniform are viewed as more assertive, dominant figures. Keeping a neutral face is often associated with higher status in a work environment.
How to show you're a good team player Put a picture of a dog by your desk. Why it works: people will not only assume you're loyal, sensitive and trustworthy, but they may also act more loyally towards you. But don't go overboard- too many personal pictures make you seem less professional.
With a man
How to be more alluring when you meet him Talk about a recent holiday you were on, using as many sensual terms as you can. For example, say. "I love feeling the hot sun against my skin," to paint a warm mental picture of you that he won't forget. Why it works: According to psychologists, this seductive speech will make him associate your personality with the lush sensations you're describing.
How to get the man you fancy to fall for you Spend time gazing into his eyes, letting him bathe in your undivided attention. Then suddenly lean back and employ a cut-off signal by looking away. Why it works: This is like turning of the hot tap. It will confuse him and he'll have to intensify his own interest signals to regain your attention.
How to have a big relationship chat without freaking him out take him to a restaurant that has soft feminine decor, with round tables and curved-back chairs. Why it works: According to researchers, this kind of environment can influence a person to communicate in a more feminine way, so he's likely to understand your point of view and discuss his true feelings.
With friend and family
How to win over your boyfriend’s parent or friends Casually praise someone who as key sports figure, political figure or celebrity. Why it works: Talk about their hero in a positive light and your target will think about the qualities they admire in that person....and subconsciously link you with those positive traits.
How to make friend out of an Acquaintance Every now and then, mirror his or her behavioural habits - like touching your hair when they touch theirs. Why it works: We like to see ourselves in others. If you move or stand in a similar but unobtrusive way, then the person feels closer to you without realising why.
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