Dealing with a breakup is hard enough, but it's a whole lot tougher when it happens during the holidays. There are several reasons for this. First, you're going to have to explain to the whole family why you've shown up by yourself. And what are you supposed to do with the presents you've already bought. Do you take them back? Give them anyways?
It's even harder when the breakup wasn't your idea. But don't despair. Here are some tips to get you through the next few weeks. You'll feel a lot better, and they might even help you get your ex back!
The first step is to change your focus. You can't spend all your time thinking about your ex or feeling sorry for yourself. No matter how sad or lonely you're feeling right now, it's time to start doing things that will make you feel better.
Think of this as a time to focus on yourself for a change. You've probably had less time to spend with friends than you use to. Now is your chance to reconnect. This doesn't mean going on and on about the breakup. It means going out and having fun. You need to relax, be with people who care about you, and just forget about the past for now.
Have you had the same hairstyle for years? Is your wardrobe a little dated? Could be it's time for a change. Grab some magazines and look for a new cut you like. Go out and try on some of the new styles, and buy something that makes you feel fantastic. Splurge a little - you deserve it!
Now think of something you've always wanted to do, but haven't had the chance. Is there a place you've always wanted to travel to? Maybe you've always wanted to learn to play tennis, or learn to play bass guitar. Stop dreaming about it and take action instead.
Take that first small step. Pick up a travel brochure to your dream destination, or buy a course to learn the language. Check out a book at the library on the subject. If you need lessons, get yourself signed up.
You'll feel so much better, because you'll be spending your energy on something positive. Once you start moving towards that goal, you'll find yourself waking up a little more excited each morning. You'll feel better about the future - and about yourself. And you'll have something fun to talk about with everyone over Christmas dinner!
So instead of wallowing in self-pity, pull yourself up and take charge. Work on becoming a better you, and you may find your ex is a little more interested than you expected.
