The Magic Of Making Up – How To Reconnect With Your Ex
If you have been separated from your ex for any length of time yet desperately want them back in your life ask yourself this question…”Are you ready to reconnect with them?”
No seriously, are you? You see, if you were dumped out of your relationship for whatever reason the chances are you weren’t ready to end it. That is only natural. Whether you acted desperately or not at the time will have a big bearing on your chances of getting them back. We hope you maintained a cool head and just walked away giving both them and yourself plenty of space.
This advice of agreeing with the break up and walking away is powerful when applied and one of the reasons Magic Of Making Up is gathering a cult-like following in the relationship stakes. But regardless of whether you did or not, if you have managed to stay ex-free for at least a month then you are probably still in with a chance to get back with them.
The sabbatical will have given you time to re-assess your relationship, cleared your head and even the opportunity to take others out on a date. But deep down, you will still want to get back with your ex however, there are a couple of important aspects you need to consider before you try to reconnect with them.
Ready To Reconnect With Your Ex?
But the whole aim is to clear your head and eliminating those thoughts of desperation because the reconnection stage is going to require you to be totally okay with yourself. In other words, you should be at a stage where you’re feeling like you can take your relationship or leave it.
The last thing you want to be feeling is like jumping back into the relationship come hell or high water or dropping to your hands and knees just at the sound of the voice of your ex. If this is how you feel then the bad news is you’re not ready to reconnect.
The beauty of Magic Of Making Up comes from the fact two people have had time to reflect over their differences and when it’s crunch time, the emotions which consume them are basically reciprocal. It’s a great feeling yet many spurned lovers fall over at the last hurdle by making some stupid mistakes.
Here are the two biggest mistakes you can make when reconnecting with your ex:
- You sound desperate on the phone and what this will do is make you more unattractive. It’s like wimpy behavior and just put yourself in the other person’s shoes…how does this sort of behavior affect you when it’s being directed towards you.
- the second mistake comes with the apology. Well, an apology is fine but how sincere is it. Here’s what most people say in an apology…”I’m so sorry for causing you any grief and am truly sorry but…”
See the problem with the word but. It indicates it’s still about you and you’re not sincere. Eliminate it from your vocabulary during the reconnection stage. If you weren’t totally to blame and your ex contributed in some way to the problems, then let them admit it. Don’t tell them. Throw in that three-letter word and kiss away your chances of experiencing Magic Of Making Up.
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