We all know what it is like when you break up with your girlfriend, at that moment you are at a loss. The next thing you begin to do is think how to get her back; this can become an issue if those actions become desperate.
The next thing you do is try and call her, then when she fails to pick up you begin to feel rejected. This rejection can then further lead to even more desperate actions.
All this begins to add up to one mistake after another. So the first important steps you need to take is this, step back from it all and take a little time out. Do not call her. I know this is easy for me to say but you must admit we can all get a little silly when we are strung out.
The next important step is to try and talk over your relationship with friends. If you have mutual friends then that can be more helpful, especially if they have been in contact with your ex. Your objective is to act responsibly to find out what went wrong.
Now for step number three. Based on the fact that you are acting more responsibly in trying to figure out where things went wrong, the clock is ticking giving you more time to get your head on straight, continue with your life and make the right decisions moving forward.
By taking these steps you are acting maturely and running around like a lost puppy. Due to the fact that you have not called your ex, she will get the impression that you are working things out, and of course with that she may fear that she will actually lose you, because often times relationships end as a test to see if you are really committed.
As mentioned often breakups get to be a test to see if one or the other is truly committed to the relationship. If either party feels that they could lose the other then the behavior can begin to change.
Last but not least once you have gathered your thoughts it is now time to contact your ex. Give her a call and when you start to talk, discuss general topics, do not discuss the relationship, then say that you have to go and maybe suggest a coffee or let her make the move to meet again. Then when you do you can go into more detail, however the key is to make the situation comfortable so that she can say what is on he mind.
